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Compliment Women; Don't Criticize Them
As you likely know, most men like compliments that appeal to their egos. Most women, however, like compliments that appeal to their vanity. All women love to receive compliments that make them feel good about themselves. The best compliments to give just about any woman are ones that are directed at the specific things that are important to her self-esteem. give the right complimentAfter having a bad weekend, Judy's boss greeted her one Monday morning by saying, "You look nice today!" Although she thanked him, what she really heard from her boss was, "You look nice today. Normally you look like crap!" A better compliment from her boss would have been, "You look exceptionally nice today!" With the addition of just one word, he would have implied that she looks nice every day.
A compliment given to a woman the wrong way will be taken as an insult.
When a man pays a woman a compliment, he should watch her reaction closely and pay attention to how she responds. Most women will accept a sincere compliment graciously with a simple "thank you." Occasionally, however, a well-timed compliment might produce more favorable results.
A woman may respond to a compliment with a smile, accompanied by a visible glint in her eyes. She may even respond with playful submissiveness. If she responds with more than five words, for example: "Thank you, you are very kind," or "Thank you, it is kind of you to notice," she might be interested in a little more than just the compliment you've given her!
The worst criticism for most women is that which is aimed at the things affecting their self-esteem -- things they cannot change about themselves (at least not easily).
There are three things a man should never criticize a woman about:
1- Her looks
2- Her weight
3- Her emotional makeup
Women are generally self-conscious about certain things pertaining to their looks. A woman may think her nose is too big, her eyes are too small, her teeth are not perfectly straight, her skin is not perfectly clear, or that she looks older than she really is. Most women do the best they can to look their best.
Women will interpret some questions as criticism, even if they aren't meant to be. For example, the following questions will likely be taken the wrong way:
Is that your real hair?
Are those your real eyes?
Are those your real nails?
Are those your natural breasts?
These questions are very personal to a woman and should never be asked by someone that she doesn't know, especially when other people are around. If she has augmented or enhanced these parts of her body, she has done so in an attempt to look her best. When these questions are asked, she immediately thinks and may even respond with, "What does it matter? What are you going to do if I answer 'yes', or better yet, what are you going to do if I answer 'no'?"
For a woman, the issue of weight is as much of a handicap as the issue of being short is for a man. While a percentage of men actually prefer full-figured women, there are far less of these men than there are full-figured women. This imbalance, coupled with the lack of dating activity, is ever-present in the mind of most overweight women.
Since the region of a woman's brain that does the emotional processing is larger than the same region of a man's brain, telling a woman that she is too emotional has no redeeming value for a man.
So when you first meet a woman, enjoy her looks -- enhanced or not -- never make mention of a scale and most of all, never tell a woman that she's an emotional basket case. Good luck, guys.